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On communication with systems of public education

Our youngest child attends Dean Allan Elementary School. A CCSD school in Las Vegas, Nevada.

Dear Ms. Frasier. Yesterday, we received Elijah’s report card. Although we do have some concerns about his academic progress, we need to have a conversation about his behavioral grades. We have a child who still cares enough about these things that he cried for hours over the “N”s that he received. We are fully aware that Elijah can be and is, challenging at times, and we in no way want to excuse these behaviors, but we were unaware that our child is seen as “in need of improvement” by your staff. I want to assure you that we send the best version possible of him to you each day, and we were unaware of the label that his teachers have placed on him. Had we been collaboratively involved by the school, we would have been actively engaged in his improvement to the best of our ability. My partner and I would like to meet with you as soon as possible to discuss what support Elijah received for his behaviors during the first semester and what support will be like for him through the rest of the school year to help him meet the expectations of children at your school.

For-what-it’s-worth, from our point-of-view, Elijah’s biggest struggle is with immaturity. As an educator, you know that this will come with time. I would like to see what we can do together as a team to help keep him feeling okay about school, to support him as a work in progress as all children are, and to continue to love him, while we wait for his maturity to blossom. Elijah will not be returning to your school until we hold this meeting, and we receive assurances of his emotional safety while in your care. Please administratively excuse his absences.

Thank You,
The Moses Family
Glenn, Rae, Owen, Audra, and Elijah

P.S. Ms. Frasier, we met last year about one of your teachers who made it known to my child that she disliked him. In that conversation I told you about some of the challenges our family faces. Over Winter Break, we spent several days at Sunrise hospital with Elijah’s older brother, Owen; as we continue to manage the aftercare of another traumatic event in a lifetime of traumatic events for that child, I need you to know that I do not have the emotional energy for this and your school is making me dig deep to advocate for my baby. Principal to principal (and as a principal that has done the daunting work of righting a school’s culture in the past, I have some idea of what you’re trying to do and I think you’re doing a great job, fwiw. I see you.) please protect my child from this system as you do the work to make this school the best place it can be for children. I’m not above begging a system for what my children need. So, please help him. Please.

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